“No, you can’t always get what you want. You can’t always get what you want. You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometime, you find you get what you need”
Well known lyrics from the Rolling Stones. Now I’m not so sure about the rest of song, but those lines right there…yeah…they seemed to be the anthem of our family’s summer. And aside from the fact that it is a toe-tapping, catchy tune, what if what I apparently needed was definitely not what I had thought I wanted?
From the big events, to the small mundane everyday events, it seemed as though the things I had hoped for and wanted were out of reach. Triple locked behind very large doors that had been metaphorically slammed in my pouting face
So then what?
How does a grown adult gracefully respond to disappointment?
- Do I gracefully accept the reality of a particular situation? Making lemonade from lemons, with a thankful heart. All the while trusting in God’s sovereignty
- Do I throw a tantrum of epic proportion which is much less tolerable and far more ridiculous than a three year old’s tantrum? All the while reminding God how I think He should be directing my life?
Spoiler Alert: My default is option number 2. It’s always number 2
If I’m honest with myself…and I mean REALLY HONEST. Though my words may say that I trust God; my heart struggles to truly rely on God in the everyday-ness of life. Without thinking I load the day’s challenges and tasks atop my shoulders and I begin to plod my path. And only when the day has become a complete mess, do I then consider calling God in for some consultation, as though He were a lawyer on retainer only in existence to get me out of a jam. These “consults” usually involve a lot of whining (“why is this happening to ME?!?!), and complaining (“Why are you letting this happen to ME?!?!) and trust me… it’s not pretty!
Without praying, I make plans and schemes to “fix” everything and everyone. Moving ahead of God and hoping he will just tag along with his blessing. And only when it is very apparent that I am not “fixing” anything (usually making it worse), do I then look back from my driving seat, to the backseat where I have placed God, to complain that He has not directed me another way. Ironic much???
So easily my heart can become self serving and entitled, focused solely on what I am convinced I am owed and what I think to be best. So quickly I forget who is TRULY sovereign, and who is deserving of all glory and honor.
“Our Father in Heaven, hallowed be YOUR name. YOUR kingdom come, YOUR will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.” Matthew 6:9-10
So quickly I disregard God’s call to rely on him DAILY.
“ Give us THIS day our DAILY bread” Matthew 6:11
So quickly I dismiss His grace and forgiveness freely given to me
“And FORGIVE US our debts as we also have forgiven our debtors” Matthew 6:12-13
Life will continue to have disappointments, relational hurts, heart breaking losses, infuriating setbacks, crappy days, cranky kids, cranky parents, and everything in between. Without a doubt. We live in a fallen world. BUT GOD. He is ever present in ALL of it; grace-filled and patiently waiting for us to come to Him with ALL things. Every day. And it’s as simple as that.
Less whining and “fixing” from me. More relying and resting in HIM.
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